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Trisha

A couple of ideas... Try laying him on his back and move his legs like he is riding a bicycle and gently press his knees up to his tummy. Made my son pass gas every time! Another thought is to lay him along your arm, so he's on his stomach with your hand cradling his head. Don't know why that helps but I've heard it does. I never had much luck with the Mylicon drops, but they might just work for your son, so I'd say give those a try as well. Take turns pacing the floor. When it's DH's turn to pace, you get out of the house -- even if it's just to the nearest Starbuck's for 30 minutes. I also heartily recommend getting Grandma or any other able bodied relative to show up and do some pacing. The good news is that most babies outgrow the colic by the time they are 3 months old. Hang in there!!! (Oh, and congratulations!)

christine

I have an 11 month old and the sound of her inconsolable crying (that petered out at about 10 wks) is as fresh as the peaches on my kitchen counter. I feel wounded at the very thought of it.

I recommend Harvey Karp's "Happiest Baby on the Block". "The 5 S's" (swing/shush/swaddle...can't remember the others) work with miraculous simplicity. Swaddling, when done effectively, is like a switch turning the baby off. It has to be FIRMLY in place. If he can kick out of it then it's not done right. A newborn can't kick out of a good swaddle.

One thing that really helped (although science apparently doesn't back me up on this, yet I am not alone in thinking it worked) was giving up dairy (I was breastfeeding...if you're doing formula you might want to tinker and try another brand). I did it half-heartedly and only for 3 days and nothing happened. Then, when deeper desperation set in, I really did it and after about 7 days I could definitely see an improvement. I went back to dairy at about 5-6 months with no problems.

Other things that we tried, that helped in bits...our pediatrician taught us a baby massage where you hold their feet on the changing table, bend their legs and push knees into their stomachs. With force. 2-5 times and out came little farts and the crying eased until the next round. She got positively giggly about this eventually, as it quickly eased her pain. When things got better we still did it because the farting made us laugh. (How's that for selfish?)

Gripe water didn't work for us, but mylecon did, and we used it at night for her middle of the night feed (this is after about 8 weeks, when she went down from 7 to 1 AM. It didn't work AFTER the feed - it had to be before.

Also, I went to a weekly breastfeeding support group, and even if you're not breastfeeding, a new moms type of thing might be worth trying to find. I'm not a let's-get-in-a-circle-and-share-our-feelings type of girl, but I took great comfort in other people's experiences as well as the fact that there was always somebody with a tougher situation that made me feel grateful.

Good luck and congratulations.

Amanda

Walk him a lot. In a sling. Gas drops have been shown non-effective in controlled trials, as have most things other than waiting until he's three months old and grows out of it. But "Healthy Sleep HAbits, Happy Child" by Mark Weissbluth for fairly useful literature commentary. And concentrate really hard on surviving. Get your husband to do a lot of the walking at night. Get away sometimes. Missing your baby is good for you. It helps you have patience. It gets worse at about 6 weeks, then gets way better after three months. Remember you don't have to adjust to life like this forever, you just have to survive until he's three months. And walk in circles. And take care of yourself.

Yesy, my 11 month old was colicky, why do you ask?

Amanda, colic surviving-mother with a now charming baby who was really horrible for a long time

christine

A couple more things...feed him at an angle (not horizontal), so his head is higher than his chest...Keep him upright/vertical for 20 min after a feed, and no matter what, extract a burp!

Ko

If you want to show a photo without "showing a photo", how about a cropped one of a little hand, a little foot, a little ear or a little smile.

Apart from that, I obviously don't know how you're feeling or what you're going through but I'm thinking of you and I hope it starts to get easier for you and bubs really soon.

Cricket

My son wouldn't breastfeed, but I pumped. In each bottle, he'd get a squirt of anti-gas stuff, Mycelex or how ever you spell it. This went on for successfully probably 2 months and he was a much happier camper for it. I didn't mind using it b/c it is inert in the gut, doesn't pass into the blood, so won't have side effects. Worth its weight in gold.

Sara

Not that I have had my OWN experiences with this, (with my child, I mean) but when I was going to grad school, I worked two jobs and one was at a small daycare. The procedure described above where you gently push the little one's legs up into their tummy area about 5-6 times does make them pass gas and seems to ease the crying. :-)

Rebekah

We used Mylicon, and felt like it worked, or at least HELPED. I know that A loved the taste of the stuff! =) If you're not comfortable giving it to your baby yet, the exercises people have mentioned (the "bicycle" method, gently extending their legs out and then pushing their knees up against their tummy) also worked for us. A would often rip a big one when we did them.

Also, I remember reading in Sears' "The Baby Book" about different things that can cause tummy bubbles/gas pain. Unfortunately, a lot of them were the methods we were using to help soothe A. Like, pacifiers and bottles. The sucking and then swallowing of air does it sometimes.

Burping after a feeding sessions CAn help (but not always). I remember a tip someone shared with me was when you're ready to burp, don't put the baby over your shoulder really quickly. Sit them up somewhat slowly, and then put them over your shoulder, or however you're going to burp them. It allows the gas bubbles to slowly come up from their tummy and escape, rather than getting trapped when you pick them up quickly. Maybe this is a bunch of hooey, but I figure ... why not try it, just in case?

Amy

Certainly you should only do what makes you feel comfortable, but if it makes you feel any better, dooce posts lots of pictures. (And she gets like, a million hits a month.) So far, no one has attacked her kid in public that I know of.

I post pictures of my kids too, but no one reads my blog but my sister.

Congrats and good luck with the gas.

Cat

Not to make light of the situation but... You are a mommy blogger!!!! Hehe... this brings great joy to a hopeful heart.

May gas and stealing a shower be your biggest worries in the months and years to come.


Bella

Poor, Brooklyn! I know the "It gets better" speech won't help now. It really will, though. I had one of those babies too. It didn't aapear to be gas. He just screamed unless I was holding him for the first six months. It got so much better at that point that I am nostalgic for those 8 hour streches in the glider with a baby on my lap, realizing that I had lost opportunities to go to the bathroom or get some food because I did not act quickly enough in the window before he ate and then fell back to sleep.

So happy to hear from you!

Mama-Bean

OK, my DD was JUST like this. Here's what worked for us...LOTS of leg jiggling. All the time. Leaned back on couch so that she was leaning back on my legs and her wee legs were on my stomach. I'd wiggle her legs and sing for maybe 20 minutes or so. Usually worked. ALSO, tummy pressure. Hold him facing out so that your arm is accross his tummy, or hold him over your arm so that his weight is on his tummy. Usually worked. Final resort for us.. a birthing ball or one of those big exercise balls. Cuddle him close and sit your ball in front of the TV, and start bouncin', mama. Easy on your legs as the bounce is pretty smooth. Super soothing to my baby, anyway.
Good luck with this!

Kris

I use the gas drops and for me, they are a lifesaver. I figure that its always worth trying.

You can get them as Little Tummies, or Gerber makes them, or you can get the name brand, or I just use the Walmart brand.

henry_mama

I would like to second the suggestion that you look into "The Happiest Baby on the Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp. Our pediatrician recommended it when I called about our little guy's screaming fits, and it. Is. A. Miracle.

The beauty of this little beauty is that it comes in DVD format! I don't know about you, but my husband and I barely had time to pee, let alone read a book during those early days. I needed answers pronto, and didn't want to have to read 100 pages before I started getting those answers! I ordered the DVD from Amazon and it arrived a couple days later.

I think the DVD is like 30-45 minutes long, or something. You could watch it while you're feeding him. Plus, it's nice to see the techniques demonstrated. For Henry, the two "S's" that worked the best were the swaddling and the white noise. We tuned a radio to static and swaddled him TIGHT -- seriously -- tighter than you think you should or he WILL get out, they're like little Houdinis. He slept like, well, a baby. We even kept him swaddled for breastfeeding. It made things SO much easier to not have those little hands flailing all over while I tried to get (and keep) him latched.

The exercises mentioned above (bicycle legs, pushing up to tummy) are great fart releasers!

Mia C.

I remember those days not so fondly. It took Dr. Brown bottles, gas drops in every bottle (you can actually watch it kill the bubbles), and finally, Dr. prescribed stool softener. I feel for you, babe. It is awful hearing your baby cry all the time. My newborn could get out of his swaddling every time:) But he did learn to love the "Shushing" of Dr. Karp.
Just brace yourself for your new high-need family member. It may be a rough few months.

bj

I have no advice -- excep to say, over and over again, that the period of crying will end. For my daughter (who was first) I thought there would be magic solutions. For the second, I hunkered down, and gratefully accepted the help of others to hold him, and give me respite.

bj

lisa

I'm going to play the part of Moxie and say: milk protein allergy.

Cut all dairy out of your diet, including hidden dairy (ie read the labels on *everything*), for a week and see if he gets better.

My little one had horrible gas like that, and is still miserable if I eat something with a trace amount of milk (and he's 7 months now).

I hope it gets better- I really feel your pain, since the constant screaming lessened after I cut dairy but didn't stop til he was 4 months.

lisa

I should add, I am assuming you are bf'ing. If you use formula, get the pre-digested hypo-allerenci stuff (v expensive).

Frances

Hi,

I'm the poster who shared a due date with you but had my boy a week earlier than you (he's 2 1/2 weeks old now). And it's a similar situation, D has terrible gas and screams in agony until I feel like he's ripping my heart out of my chest. We've tried all of the above, but one of the main things we do is dance around to music with a good beat (he seems to like Brazilian) while holding him upright with his legs sort of pushed up to his tummy. We like to make eye contact with him (they can only see to 12 inches so you have to get in close) while swaying him in our arms to the music in this position. This seems to calm him down.
I also quit dairy about a week ago, so that may have helped as well. The absence of dairy is quite painful to me, especially since I ate so much of it when I was pregnant, but if it means that he won't scream all night, then it's worth it to me (I think). And I don't know if you are breastfeeding, but there's this whole theory about foremilk and hindmilk, that if your baby gets too much foremilk, which is higher in lactose than the creamier hindmilk, the lactose can give them terrible gas, so perhaps offering only one breast per feeding might help, as opposed to giving him more lactose from the other breast in the same feeding. This is what I've been doing, and that may be helping the situation as well, because he seems calmer in the last couple of days.....

I really hope this gets better before three months!

Moxie

Now I'm going to play the part of Lisa playing the part of me to say it may be milk protein alergies. If he's fine and feeds well but then about 15-20 minutes later starts crying from gas or gut pain, it's almost certainly from the fairy you're eating. It takes a full 2 weeks for all the dairy to go out of yoru system, but the first round is out in 48 hours. SO if that cycle sounds familiar, trying eliminating dairy for a few weeks.

If he cries all the time and has no noticable increase in crying 20 minutes after a feed, it's probably not a milk protein thing, although you could cut out dairy just to give yourself something to do.:)

Frances, FWIW, my good friend who had to cut out all forms of dairy was able to go back on it when her daughter was 5 or 6 months old. And her daughter now consumes dairy with no problems. So it was totally worth it to allow her daughter not have problems, and it's wasn't for a long time, only a few months. Keep the faith, and stock up on dark chocolate.

Christine

We also used Happiest Baby and it helped a lot. Right away. Max was the screaming-just-because not the gas pain kind, though.

And I hope this makes you feel better: my sister just asked what the longest time was that he had ever screamed. I had to think about it before I remembered. So, see, this will get better! Of course, once I did remember (6 hours) the horror of that night came crashing back. Shudder.

expat

Don't shift him around too much trying to find the sweet spot that will stop him crying. Give each position several minutes to see if he likes it.

Often, putting them down and picking them up again will dislodge gas.

Once you find his preferred carrying position, get yourself a sling that will hold him like that - it'll save your arms, your back and your sanity.

henry_mama

The "Happiest Baby" tricks will work even if he has gas pains. All babies have gas. Some babies are just more bothered by it than others. Dr. Karp talks a lot about the gas "issue" and supposed milk/dairy "allergies" in the book version -- which I also bought because we loved the techniques we learned on the DVD so much. I ended up reading it once I had a little more free time and it's very interesting. Apparently, milk/dairy "allergies" or "reactions" in infants are exceedingly rare. Karp says that some babies are just born calmer than others -- they can handle their new world much more easily, while the more sensitive babies need a bit more help learning how to chill. For example, one baby might be able to fart all the live-long day and not make a peep, while another baby will let out a tiny toot or his stomach will gurgle a little, and he screams bloody murder -- pretty much, he's saying, "OH MY GOD, MY TUMMY IS ALL GURGLY AND I'M SHOOTIN' AIR OUT MY ASS AND I USED TO BE ALL WARM AND TOASTY AND SAFE AND JIGGLIN' AROUND IN MOM'S TUMMY AND NOW I'M OUT HERE AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL'S GOIN' ON AND JESUS H CHRIST!"

Karp's techniques turn on a reflex in babies that he calls the "calming reflex" -- he compares it to the reflex in your leg when your knee is hit in the right spot. If you can get the techniques down, your baby will calm down instantly, because all babies have this reflex. The techniques take a little practice, but they're not too tough to master. They sure worked for us. Instantly.

I mean, you can give up dairy if you want, but from what I understand, that's probably not necessary.

Katy

My friend who had twins, both with terrible colic (the screaming was horrendous) swore by these little wheat bags she found online (I'm so sorry I dont know where). You pop them in the microwave then plop them on the babes tummy and the heat is supposed to ease the gas. I hope something works.

karla

1 word. Mylicon.

April

So sorry that you're having such a rough (and noisy) time.

mick

i also will third the recommendation of karp's book. my friend, who has 3 small children and seems to know everything about babies having also been an infant/early childhood ed p.h.d, said she got the book for her third baby and it worked wonders. says she wishes she had it for the first two! hope that helps.

rivka

Both my sons were severely lactose intolerant. I didn't figure it out with my first son before we went through three weeks of hell. The first day he slept for three hours straight was the day we started him on soy formula. With my second son, as soon as the symptoms hit, we found a lactose-free formula (it hadn't even existed for my first kid) and poof! No more "colic." If you are breastfeeding, I would totally recommend cutting dairy out of your diet, as well as other gassy foods, and getting your calcium another way.

halloweenlover

I don't have a baby, so no advice to suggest, but YAY! You have a beautiful baby now! I had to just throw that in. I hope you do find a way to share the cuteness because we'd like to see it.

kate

Yes to the Happiest Baby suggestion. I also have a screamer. It's awful. If your boy has gas, it will get better as he matures - my son was soooo gassy for the first couple of weeks, but got better by the day. Good luck & congrats!

Anna

As one who has experienced this I want to tell you don't be to sure about the "gas".

I spent tons of time, energy and money trying to find things to eliminate the "gas' only to finally have it confirmed that the gas was not causing the crying rather the crying was causing the what I though was gas, but just was a stomach hurt by too many gulps of air during crying!!!!!!!!!!!

Becki

This too shall pass (no pun intended). But until it does, see if you can lay hands on some gripe water. It's a preparation containing, among other things, ginger and dill. Some brands contain alcohol; tempting as it may be, try to avoid those. Dickinson's is a good one. Unfortunately, it can be hard to find in the U.S., but if you have any friend in Canada, beg them to ship you some or try to find some on the Internet.

Monica

So far what is working for us is lactose-free formula, and eliminating all dairy and caffeine from my diet (I supplement and breastfeed). Also gripe water. But...*sigh* when do they start sleeping more than 2-3 hours at a stretch? and when does day become day and night become night? After a ROUGH week and a half, I need a light at the end of the tunnel.

I also use the Dr. Karp techniques, with some success--my daughter hates swaddling, but the swaying and shushing work wonders.

For her, the gas problem was exacerbated by her being overtired--she passes it fine when she's gotten enough sleep, but when she's already exhausted it just adds insult to injury. Hopefully giving up the caffeine will help with that.

Rebecca

You are now in the club. The club of "holy crap why can't I make everything better?" My daughter went through the same thing. Try everything you can to help him (pacing around with the baby in a sling worked wonders) and then remember two things. 1.Although he seems to be in pain and his crying is so unnerving, there is nothing wrong with him that is life threatening. 2. Sometimes, especially at the end of the day, babies just cry. They have so much energy and absolutely no way to outwardly express themselves except for crying.
I completely empathize with you! Drink a glass of wine-especially if you are nursing!

gretchen

If bottle feeding,try Dr. Brown bottles, helped a lot with my daughter. I feel for you, both my babies were colicky. Good luck!

Yvette

Dr. Karp saved my life. The 5 S's worked for my screaming gassy Baby Bella. Congratulations on the birth of your baby. I know its been said a thousand times but it does get better. Bella is 9 months old, walking and in to everything and it is glorious. I do miss the newborn stage although I thought I was going to lose my mind from lack of sleep. Good Luck and many beautiful days.

Laura K.

Ugh - we had this BIG TIME with both kiddos. The 5S thing someone else mentioned - good. The sling - also good.

Waiting it out - not much fun AT ALL, but a necessary evil.

Good luck - I promise I will get better (and so does my now-happy, almost always smiling 5.5 month old).

Mary

Lordy, do I feel your pain. Oh, the crying, and the crying, and the screaming. Everyone has wonderful suggestions (Dr. Karp, sling, knees to chest, etc) but here are just a few more. Hold the baby securely against your body, supporting his head; now raise up on your toes, then come down hard while SHHHing loudly in his ear. Good for calf muscles too. Another thing you might try is suspending the little one in a blanket with you holding one end and somebody else the other, then swaying him back and forth gently like a hammock. I hear they have swings that mimic this side to side motion and if I have another colicky baby I'm gonna get me one. The front-back kind did nothing for my wee Screamy McScream.

Also, you might try baby massage when he's a tad older.

Turns out our baby had acid reflux (the silent kind, without the spitting up). At least she got somewhat better when the meds kicked in; this coincided with her being about 3 mos though so who knows. One of her symptoms was being extremely fussy at the breast, turning away and refusing to feed, etc ... YMMV.

The worst part for me was feeling like a total incompetent who didn't know how to calm my own baby. It was totally irrational, but not only did I feel sick-making envy for my friends with calm babies, but I felt it was secretly a reflection on me, my non-calmness and Zenness, my complete non-aptitude as a parent, and so on. I'm not saying you're as crazy as me; just, you know, if you are, this line of thinking is totally WRONG. You're doing a fabulous job at something very, very hard. Have a nice glass of wine when you get a chance. Salut!

Molly

Mylicon drops make it bearable. Time makes it pass.

Ellen

Oh, honey, you have my sympathies, coming from someone who has survived a colicky baby.

I guess I don't have any advice. This too shall pass. His fussiness now is not actually indicative of his future personality. Anna is a happy happy baby now, but it didn't hit until the three month mark. The first three months of my daughter's life... well, she just seemed pissed to have been out of the womb.

I'm not really an Attachment Parent, but I found Dr. Sear's book, The Fussy Baby Book extremely helpful. If only just to feel like someone understood what I was going through. Other than that, the only thing that helped me was prayer and VH1, which I would turn up louder than her screaming.

Ellen

Oh, and try not to feel like this is your fault-- your stress, your diet, your whatever. Most of the time, it's just... well, colic. And even the experts don't know what causes it.

henry_mama

To follow up on Ellen's last post ("colic... even the experts don't know what causes it"), and to reiterate what I've said earlier, I'd definitely caution against buying into all this "milk allergy" and "you MUST give up dairy" info people love to throw at you. Unless, of course, it's definitively diagnosed by your pediatrician.

cas

Do whatever you can to comfort yourself as well. Sometimes you can comfort them, sometimes, sadly, you just can't.

We had better luck with gripe water and baby acidophilus (crushed acidophilus tablets) and sometimes the jiggling/wiggling/rubbing of the baby belly.

Do what you can, and then do whta you can to console yourself (which may include taking a break for a few minutes while someone else minds him.)

Beth

I too feel your pain. I have a three week old son who also suffers from excessive gassiness. My husband and I have done everything to try and alleviate his pain. We are bottlefeeding, because I had complications after delivery which interfered with my success of breastfeeding. With my son's "lazy latch", he gets a ton of air when he is feeding (also has not helped our breastfeeding success). It is as if he breathes air in through his nose and swallows it with every gulp. We burp him incessently, but to no avail. Mylicon drops work sometimes. Our pediatrician has switched him to soy, which I don't feel has helped much. I'm leary about switching his formula yet again to a hypoallergenic, since it's likely just gas and formula probably won't help. Anyone have any experiences in that area?

Seems like if I do pump breastmilk and give it to him in a bottle, it helps his gassiness. The soy has made him more constipated, which has made the situation worse. I see the pediatrician again today, but ordered the Dr. Brown's bottles and also am going to order "The Happiest Baby on the Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp. Luckily, our son is somewhat easy to soothe at times, but it makes for long days and nights when you're up all hours trying to soothe him. :P

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