All Clear

I'm infertile, too tired to have sex, and still haven't gotten my period, but other than those limiting factors, I have the all clear to get pregnant. 

I saw my OB yesterday for a six month postpartum visit, and she said that if I'm content to have another c-section, I can get pregnant now.  If I'm determined to give vaginal birth a try, we should hold off another 3-6 months.

To which I say: ha.  Ha ha.  My OB has always had an exaggerated sense of my fertility so when she asked me how many children I wanted to have, I somehow managed to stammer out that wanting and having were two different things, especially when you are 36 and it took you 3.5 years and $20,000 to have your first child.

But the fact is that I would like to have another child (for many of the reasons that Julie and friends have eloquently enumerated here).  I don't know that I'm ready to cycle again or that I will ever be able to justify gambling The Boy's college fund (such as it is) on ART, but again, like Julie, I have not been able to part with the accoutrements of IVF, which are packed up and hiding in the back of my closet in case they should become...relevant.

In the meantime, I'm just going to focus on enjoying The Boy, who is practically perfect except for a slight reluctance regarding carrots.

Comments

[Moxie]

She's seriously recommending having kids 15 months apart? Planned that way? Oy.

I mean, you do it if it happens that way, but to specifically try to have them 15 months apart? Maybe if you toss in a lobotomy with that c-section...

[Brooklyn Girl]

Moxie--She didn't specifically recommend it, but she didn't recommend against it either.

Besides, very little in my reproductive life has been planned one way or another.

[Julie]

That photo made me gasp.

What. A BEAUTIFUL. Boy you have.

[heather]

He is simply stunning. What an adorable little guy you have.

[Julie]

Hi,
I fed my 6 month old carrots twice this week and he has a nasty rash on his chin and some gas. Any reaction with your Boy? Our's is quite the drooler and he's had some mild chin rashes, but this one is bad and he hasn't been drooling any more. The only other thing he's had is homemade oatmeal and applesauce and he did fine with that. Just wondering...

[Alexa]

What a lovely boy. As far as the carrots go, my baby brother was the opposite--LOVED them. He ate so many that his skin took on a yellowish tinge (true!) which with his red hair made him look...eerie.

I hope that the IVF accoutrements never again become "relevant," because your fertility is magically restored...

[Susan]

Remember you can ovulate before you get your first period back, so don't rely on a lack of a period as birth control. Abstinence due to exhaustion works just fine, however ;)

[Julie/JCTBean]

The Boy is an absolute doll. Just beautiful.

Are carrots his first venture into veggies?

[nonlineargirl]

I threw out all the IVF crap once I got pregnant. It felt so good. I kept all the instructions, however, because I'm just anal that way.

I want to have another child but it will be a while before we do this again. My girl is great, but the idea of having a toddler and an infant is a bit daunting. Oh, and then there is the money we don't have on hand to do it again yet....